I was stuck. Not in a dramatic, rock-bottom kind of way. Just the slow, creeping kind of stuck where you keep telling yourself you're thinking it through, weighing up the options, waiting for the right moment. Meanwhile, nothing moves.
I was in New Zealand. My life wasn't working. But instead of doing something about it, I was paralysed by the options. Where would I go? What would I do? What if I got it wrong?
So one day, I grabbed a map. I closed my eyes. And I spun my finger.
It landed on Tauranga.
I packed up and moved there.
"That one decision, made without certainty and without a plan, is where everything shifted. The ducks didn't align before I decided. They aligned because I did."
Why We Don't Decide
We've been taught that good decisions require information. Research. Certainty. We wait until we know enough, feel ready enough, have enough in the bank, enough confidence, enough proof that it's going to work out.
But here's what I've learned from years of coaching and from my own life: certainty is not a prerequisite for action. It is a result of it.
The people who wait for perfect conditions never move. And the people who move — even imperfectly, even with half the information — are the ones who end up somewhere worth being.
The Cost of Not Deciding
There's a hidden cost to staying stuck that nobody talks about. It's not dramatic. It doesn't feel like failure. It just feels like another day passing where you didn't quite do the thing you said you were going to do.
Multiply that by weeks. Months. Years. That's your empire not being built.
Every day you spend overthinking a decision is a day you're not getting feedback from reality. And feedback from reality — even when it's uncomfortable — is the only thing that actually moves you forward.
"Safe decisions cause stuckness. The difference between drifting and designing your life is one bold decision."
How to Choose Anyway
I'm not telling you to be reckless. I'm telling you to be honest about what's actually holding you back. In most cases, it's not that you don't have enough information. It's that you're afraid of getting it wrong.
Here's the reframe: getting it wrong is not failure. Not deciding is.
Ask yourself: if I knew this decision couldn't be undone, what would I choose? That answer is usually closer to what you actually want than anything your overthinking mind has come up with.
Then do that. Before you've talked yourself out of it.
The map doesn't lie. Spin the finger. Pick the city. Go.
